What is “courtly love”?

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Courtly love was a medieval aristocratic ideal that framed love as a disciplined, ennobling service a knight owed a high-born lady—often secret and outside marriage. It functioned as a code of conduct and literary motif, not a marriage contract, church rite, or legal statute. Lovers proved worth through deeds, restraint, and loyalty, with love portrayed as refining one’s character.

Emerging in 12th‑century courts such as Aquitaine and Champagne, it spread through troubadour songs and works like Andreas Capellanus’s De Amore and Chrétien de Troyes’s romances (e.g., Lancelot and Guinevere). While largely a stylized, elite fiction coexisting with arranged marriages, its rituals—tokens, vows, and idealized devotion—deeply influenced chivalry and later Western notions of romantic love.